getting over it

In my circle of friends, EVERYBODY is breaking up. Maybe it's just the clouds of winter that are putting everybody in an anti-loving mood, but regardless of the reason, I feel like broken hearts surround me. Having recently been through a pretty nasty break-up, I've been the "go to" person for advice on how to mend. I've put together a couple cool ideas and I thought I'd share them with you! That is, of course, if you'll share your ideas with me!

Days 1-4:

Give yourself permission to feel like crap. Wear oversized sweatshirts. Sleep in. Eat junk food. Scream at the television. Throw things. Burn things. Cry like a five-year-old.

Day 5:

Get mad. Write an angry letter. Fill it with every ugly word you can think of. Say everything you want to say. And then perfect it. When you read it out loud, you want it to sound like a brilliant piece from some brilliant movie. Once it's done, press print. Sign your name. Fold the letter. Stick it in an envelope. Seal it. Write his/her name on the front and then toss it in a fire.

Day 6-7:

Just zen. Listen to good music. Take long runs. Eat good food. Soak in the bathtub. Cry. Paint. Read. Write. Search for quotes that make you happy... Just all things simple and wonderful.

Day 8:

Force yourself to get out of bed, to wear normal clothes, to drink tons of ice water, to go out with friends even when it's the last thing you want to do... allow yourself to indulge in chocolate. Flirt for fun even if you're not interested — it'll make you feel attractive. Get a new haircut or do something new to feel new.

Happy mending,
Carina Kolodny