Does something feel different in your relationship and you're not quite sure what it is? If you feel like you and your boyfriend aren't as happy as you once were, it may mean a split is looming. Here are some warning signs to help you prepare for the storm, so that you can work it out or move on.

He gets into fights with you that are pointless. If your boyfriend is fighting with you about things he wouldn't have fought with you before, or bringing up things of the past and acting suddenly snappy it may mean he's thinking of ending things.

He becomes overly critical towards you. This is unhealthy, so if you feel like your boyfriend has been putting you down when he once used to dote on you; it's probably because his feelings for you have changed.

He stops communicating with you. This is a telltale sign things are drifting. If his texts, calls, and emails are less frequent as before and unresponsive, you know things have changed and you two should talk.

Really, you know when you and your boyfriend aren't connecting. While it could be a small phase, be smart when you see these signs and have a talk with him. You should be with someone who respects and admires you, not someone you are constantly arguing, fighting, or ignoring. If things do end, know that you should be with someone who wants to be with you, and if that isn't him, there is someone right around the corner to take his spot!

What are some warning signs your ex-boyfriends gave you? How did you deal with it?

xoxo,

Divya

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With the coming of New Moon, we've been seeing lots of headlines of Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart with the looming question, are they or aren't they?

We still don't know if Rob and Kristen are dating, but what about when it comes to relationships that aren't in the spotlight? If you are a public figure, keeping your relationship secret is understandable, but when you are dating someone who wants to keep it a secret from your friends, is he protecting you or does he have something to hide?

If you've recently started seeing someone who doesn't want to tell his friends about you or your friends about him, think about the situation from an outsider's view. Is it because he knows your friends or parents won't approve of him, or is it possibly because he has been flirting with other girls and doesn't want you, or them to find out?

Whatever the case may be, it's important to approach him about it if it's bothering you. It's natural to keep things quiet at first to see if you both are interested in making the relationship work, but how long is too long to keep things hush hush? It's a fine line between testing the waters and hiding the truth.

Have you dated someone before that you kept a secret from your friends? If so, why? Tell us in the comments below!

xoxo,

Colleen

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The Chris Brown assault against Rihanna may be old news, but her recent interview has stirred up the conversation once again.

What is one of the most sentimental parts of her emotional interview, is when Rihanna goes on to say that the reason she finally decides to leave Chris was to set an example that you shouldn't go back to an abusive relationship, even though she admits at first she did. "When I realized that my selfish decision for love could result in to some young girl getting killed, I couldn't be easy with that part. I couldn't be responsible for telling girls to go back."

What was also alarming is that it takes a girl eight to nine times to be abused before leaving their significant other. But what defines an abusive relationship? According to Teen Health, signs of an abusive relationship include if your significant other:

-harms you physically in any way, including slapping, pushing, grabbing, shaking, smacking, kicking, and punching

-tries to control different aspects of your life, such as how you dress, who you hang out with, and what you say

-frequently humiliates you or making you feel unworthy (for example, if a partner puts you down but tells you that he or she loves you)

-coerces or threatens to harm you, or self-harm, if you leave the relationship

-twists the truth to make you feel you are to blame for your partner's actions

-demands to know where you are at all times

-constantly becomes jealous or angry when you want to spend time with your friends

If any of these signs are in your relationship, talk to someone immediately and see how you can get help.

What are your thoughts on abusive relationships? Why do you think girls are so reluctant to leave them? How do you know the difference between a bad fight and abuse? Post your thoughts below.

xoxo,

Colleen

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Have you ever heard of the term "turkey drop?" It's when a college freshman breaks up with their high school boyfriend on the first holiday vacation home, usually Thanksgiving.

This can be extremely difficult. You probably still love the person you spent those four years of high school with however, now that you're in college, you want to explore and get to know new people. College is the time you grow up and figure out who you really are, including who you'd like to date.

Even if you and your boyfriend made a solemn vow to each other before you left for college that nothing would change between you two let's face it, change is inevitable.

A friend of mine worked through his entire first year of college to stay with his high school girlfriend. It delayed the pain they both felt when they finally did split, because eventually the long distance didn't work. They were both doing different things with their life and because of that, the relationship had changed.

You definitely aren't alone if you're thinking about how your once perfect relationship is hitting a few bumps now that you are at college. When this happens, it's important to think about the decision you're going to make. Will you be happier if you are single your freshmen year? Or will you spend every night crying on the phone telling him how much you miss him? The relationships you created in high school are strong, genuine, and if you choose can last a long time, even if it isn't in the same context it once was.

Your breakup may not be easy, and telling your hometown boyfriend that you want a break or are dating someone else may break your heart as much his. Remind yourself that you made this decision for a reason and if you're not 100 percent in a relationship, being honest with what you want is the best thing you can do for both of you.

Are you at school and thinking about breaking it off with your boyfriend? How would you handle the situation?

Xoxo,

Divya

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I will never forget my freshman year of Halloween in college. My friends and I decided to all go to a party dressed up as 80s girls. Cute, yet not an outfit that would make us wear anything too revealing (we were in the thick of our freshman 15 after all!). It was your typical Halloween party and we quickly befriended a group of guys from our dorm because their outfits were particularly amusing. One guy was dressed up as a cowgirl and the other as Richard Simmons, complete with a leotard and afro hair wig.

Later that night, cowgirl and I were walking hand in hand around the party when I caught one of my friends locking lips with the one and only Richard Simmons! Immediately I burst out laughing, she looked absolutely ridiculous making out with a guy in a skintight body suit that left little to the imagination. And while this was a hilarious sight, I quickly realized my own scenario was not much better! Here I was in a dark corner with a boy dressed as a girl. This was an issue, especially since he was actually wearing girl's jeans and his butt looked better in them than mine would have! I'm sure I turned several heads that night, as people wondered if I was canoodling with a boy, a girl, and if he was in fact a boy, why were his jeans that tight?

Though my love affair with the cowgirl did not last, my friend and Richard Simmons went on to have a fairly long relationship for college. Not only that, but it made for a great story when telling people how they met.

For these reasons of ridiculousness, Halloween will always be one of my favorite holidays. Halloween parties are the perfect chance to meet someone, and the pressure to impress is never as severe since more than likely, both of you look absurd. So keep your eyes peeled for the guy in the funniest costume this year, they are often the best kissers!

Do you have a funny Halloween story about meeting a guy? We want to hear about it! Post your Halloween hookups below!

xoxo,

Colleen

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Want to make everyone jealous of your cute couples costume this Halloween? Try one of these for Oct. 31 and make a statement with your guy!

You want to dress up together, but you don't want to look totally lame at the same time. If you're going to do a couples costume, you've got to do it right! That's why we've teamed up with Spirit Halloween to give you and your guy some great options when it comes to trick-or-treating this year. Spice up your duo Halloween costume with one of these below!

Twilight's Bella and Edward

Bella and Edward are quickly becoming the modern day Romeo and Juliet. They're hopelessly in love, and not bad to look at at the same time! Not only will everyone be jealous you've snagged a Cullen for the night, this costume is cheap and easy to do! Take a style tip for Bella here, while your guy can get killer vampire hair with this Edward-inspired wig.

Kanye West and Taylor Swift

You two will definitely stand out as this year's biggest VMA moment. Have your guy dress up as Kanye, with simple props like these sunglasses and microphone, while you can be sweet and innocent Taylor Swift! Pair your outfit with a cowboy hat and blonde wig, and you two will have not only an original outfit but a funny one as well!

Mobster and a Flapper

Take a spin back to the good old days with your guy being the ruthless mobster, and you as a sexy flapper! If you don't feel like splurging on an outfit, you can easily recreate this look by buying a flapper-inspired dress, getting a fun short wig and putting on your favorite pair of high heels. For him, all he will need is a suit, fedora hat, plastic gun, and some fake money!

Got another costume idea? Tell us below!

xoxo,

Colleen

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When I was first getting ready to pack up my bags and head to college, the number-one rule I was told was "don't get into a relationship your first year of college — just enjoy yourself."

Though I listened, two of my best friends did start dating within the second month of their freshman year. One who is a senior now and still in the relationship and the other broke up with her boyfriend at the end of freshman year.

You can say it depends on the personality, but what really is the healthiest choice? My friend who is still dating her boyfriend is just as happy as the day she entered college and loves the person she is with. We joke that they'll be married one day, though she doesn't like to think that far in advance. Yet she does say that even if they don't get married, she'll look back at those four years and remember that she shared college with someone truly special.

My friend who broke up with the boy she dated her entire freshman year said that it was a great relationship and that she doesn't regret spending her freshman year with someone. She is glad she didn't randomly hook up with several boys and learned a lot about herself in the time that she was in the relationship. However, now she's free to live the single life and flirt guiltlessly (and has no regrets about that either)!

Consensus? It's okay as long as you keep some things in mind. After all, I personally haven't met anyone that regrets being with the person they dated even if it led to a breakup. Nor do they regret that time or wish they had been single.

In any relationship, you do learn a lot about yourself. Just be careful as a freshman to not miss out on opportunities. Be independent, make your own friends, and have a life outside of your boyfriend if you decide to have one freshman year of college.

I think it is important to learn how to take care of yourself in college. That way, when you are in a relationship you're not totally dependent on someone else taking care of you, and you know how to carry on if the relationship does end, which it very well might.

What do you think? Would you date your freshman year of college? Do you know people who have and it ended badly? Post below and tell us your thoughts!

Xoxo,

Divya

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New York Fashion Week is finally wrapping up here at the Bryant Park tents. It's been a crazy seven days and we've gotten the chance to see a ton of shows, previewing what spring 2010 will bring for us in the way of fashion.

Walking around the tents, fashion-goers really bring their A-game. There are high heels aplenty and if you're wearing jeans, they better be really cute ones! Several shows also included menswear in their line, which got us thinking about guy style.

When it comes to boys, we aren't sure how we feel about fashion. We get sick of seeing guys in baggy jeans with holes in their shirts, but what about guys who have better style sense than you do? That's not okay either!

If we were forced to pick between the last two remaining guys on the planet, one who thought Marc Jacobs was a football player and one who owned every Lacoste polo in each individual color, we'd be stuck!

Tell us your thoughts! Do you like it when guys show they have a sense of style? Or should the boys leave the fashion to the ladies?

xoxo,

Colleen

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If there is one thing I am not good at (well, I'm probably not good at many things, but that is besides the point) it is the long-distance relationship. The LDR, as I fondly call it, gives me stress just thinking about it. The constant phone calls, the scheduled visits, it just seems like a whole lot of work.

But then again, when it comes to the LDR I realize I am pretty lazy. Many couples manage to go their separate ways at the end of summer and have a great, healthy relationship. It really all depends on the couple, and of course your communication with each other.

Having an LDR even has its perks. You can have your own life, separate from your boyfriend, with your own group of friends and interests. Plus when you go visit, you are technically giving yourself a mini vacation (especially if he goes to school somewhere warm)! If you can manage to carry on your own interests at school and still be able to relate with one another when you come home for break, it's safe to say you two have a pretty healthy relationship.

So perhaps I judge the LDR too quickly. After one failed attempt in college I have sworn them off forever, but am I wrong? Tell me how you make it work below!

Do you and your boyfriend have an LDR during the school year? How do you make it work?

xoxo,

Colleen

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Lima, Ohio just got a little more exciting! That's where FOX's new comedy, Glee is set. The show focuses on a group of high school students in the glee club, not the most popular organization in this school to say the least.

While the show is bound to be a mini Broadway production each episode, we can't help but notice the hot new eye candy that joins the cast! Say hello to Mark Salling, who plays Noah "Puck" Puckerman on the show this fall.

Salling's character Puck is a member of the football team (which we could tell immediately from those muscles!) who disapproves when the team's quarterback Finn (played by Cory Monteith from Kyle XY) joins the glee club.

Salling is a triple threat. Not only does he act, he sings and writes his own songs. He recently released his debut album Jericho and is already working on new material for another album!

You can catch Glee Sept. 9 on FOX!

What do you think of Mark Salling?

xoxo,

Colleen

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It's easy for Dancing with the Stars' Julianne Hough to turn some heads. With her amazing voice, killer dance moves, and bubbling personality Hough has taken Hollywood by storm. She's been on Maxim's Hot 100 list and has snagged country cutie Chuck Wicks! If there's someone we'd want to take dating advice from, it's her. Check out her three first date tips as part of Julianne's Goddess Guide to Getting Closer.

Don't be afraid to ask for their number.

Do give yourself a curfew for the first date. It will keep them interested.

Do wear something that makes you feel confident and comfortable and don't be afraid to show some leg!

What is your best first date tip?

xoxo,

Colleen

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Ever since I saw the film Spiderman in 2002, I have been captivated by James Franco! James' portrayal of Harry Osborne was so intriguing that I found myself anxiously waiting for his next film. He seems to have this allure that I can't quite put my finger on...okay maybe it's his gorgeous smile! James Franco is not only talented, but extremely cute.

James first hit the Hollywood scene acting as Daniel Desario in the T.V series "Freaks and Geeks." He then gained recognition for his award-winning performance as James Dean in the film James Dean. After playing Harry Osborne in Spiderman, he became a worldwide, phenomenon, staring in movies such as Pineapple Express and the Oscar-winning flick Milk. With his acting talent and heartwarming smile I am excited to see what he works on next!

What do you think of James Franco?

xoxo,
Arielle

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Okay so here's the scenario: you go to your friend's party (looking cute of course!) and there are tons of attractive guys there. After floating around and finding the best spot, you start to get your flirt on with a couple of guys. All of a sudden, there's an instant connection...but what are you really attracted to? Recently I feel like there's this constant dilemma with genuine attraction. If you've met a guy for two seconds, and he's charming and gorgeous, is it lust or love? What's the best thing to be attracted to in a guy, incredible looks or an incredible personality?

When you meet someone new, I would say most people tend to spend the first hour of the conversation simply admiring the guy...or seeing how cute he is with his infinite facial expressions! But if no sparks fly after the instant attraction, the conversation can spiral downward until you finally realize that you've been talking to a very handsome wall. If you find someone who you really enjoy having a great conversation with, regardless of looks, the attraction could be deeper and much more authentic. At the end of the day, a boring personality can be the ultimate deal-breaker!

In a perfect world who would be your dream-guy? What's more important, looks or personality?

xoxo,
Arielle

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Did anyone else notice how there is a second cutie in the New Moon trailer? Yes, Taylor Lautner, the actor who plays Jacob, is indeed an attractive sight. After watching the sneak peak of New Moon, seventeen-year-old Taylor is definitely making another kind of transformation - from cute to dreamy. I mean, we always knew that he would...but seeing him run around with his shirt off definitely sealed the deal! According to imdb.com, Taylor gained 26 pounds to fit the new role of Jacob in the second film! Evidently, the weight gain worked out well because this year the heartthrob actor made the list of People Magazine's 2009 Most Beautiful People under 21! So I guess we have a lot to look forward to with the next Twilight film. Edward may just have a little competition on his hands...

What do you think of Taylor Lautner? Are you team Edward or team Jacob?

xoxo,
Arielle

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I think we’ve all seen those classic romantic movies where a guy courts a girl - he's all nervous asking her out, he brings her flowers when he picks her up for a date, he mails her love letters, and once they get together it's magical. Yeah, that may sound peachy...but that's the movies, right? Still, I can't help but notice that the traditional dating roles have been reversed. Suddenly, we're the ones who call, send flirty notes, and get the guys to follow. Whatever happened to that confident and persistent guy? I've noticed that these days, girls are making the first moves and guys are just becoming lazy daters. The new "aggressive" girl seems to be taking the stage, and the spotlight.

Sometimes I wonder, just what is the best way to attract a guy? Are girls more respected if they’re quiet and docile, or assertive and aggressive? From observation, I've noticed that either way is an option, depending on what the girl really wants. If she wants to be with a guy as soon as possible, she contacts him. If she's looking for romance, she waits for the guy to notice her. At the end of the day all we really want to do is make an impact; linger in his mind so that we can be that "special" one that he remembers. I think that the dilemma for a girl is finding the best way to leave her mark. I will admit, this revolutionary girl-power of today is pretty refreshing, but who really wants to do all the work in a relationship?

What do you think of today’s dating? Are you the type to approach a guy?

xoxo,
Arielle

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