Sigh...guys. They're harder to figure out than studying for the SATs. Yet, life just wouldn't be the same without them. We'll happily gush over a perfect kiss then bang our heads against the wall when we can't figure out a cryptic text message. The good news is you're not alone. And if there's one person out there that knows a thing or two about the good, bad, and ugly of relationships — it's Jennifer Love Hewitt! She's dated everyone from John Mayer to Carson Daly and is currently with her Ghost Whisperer co-star Jamie Kennedy. She's had her heart broken — and she's even stomped on a few herself. So, now she's opening up about what she's learned in her new book The Day I Shot Cupid: Hello, My Name Is Jennifer Love Hewitt and I'm a Love-aholic (in-stores on March 23).
You can think of Jennifer's book as a handbook inside the male mind. She reveals the facts from the fiction of what's been written about her own dating life but mainly gives you all the tips, advice, and encouragement you need to have fun dating while staying true to yourself. Jennifer explains, "Dating has taught me what I want and don't want, who I am, and who I want to be. Hopefully, in addition to giving you a good laugh, the lessons I've learned will help you avoid awkward situations."
Some of the topics The Day I Shot Cupid: Hello, My Name Is Jennifer Love Hewitt and I'm a Love-aholic cover are:
Ten Things to Do Before a Date
Ten Things Not to Do Before a Date
Twenty Ways to Heal from a Breakup
Five Things You Should NOT Say on a Date
Actual Facts About the Heart
What's the number-one thing about guys and dating that you need advice on?
xoxo
lauren
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Maybe you think it's a good idea for you and your prom date to coordinate your look, but does he? From the color of his tie to your corsage, it's important to keep in mind that your date may have an opinion about what he wants to wear (or doesn't want to wear)on your special night. Check out what these guys say about getting dressed for prom:
Joe from Somers, CT: "Guys shouldn't know what matching is. Wearing any color is cool -- If you look ridiculous, at least it'll make a funny story later on!"
Frank from Medfield, MA: "A guy should be able to wear whatever he wants. I'd rather not wear pink or purple, but if my date really wants to match, then I'd accommodate her needs somehow."
Luke from Poconos, PA: "My date wouldn't have gone with me if we weren't wearing the same color! Though we matched completely, I still think a guy has the right to wear whatever color he wants."
Steve from Greenlawn, NY: "A guy should wear any color he wants, but also be ready to compromise if his date wants to match. I didn't match at my prom, but I at least made sure the corsage complemented her dress. I definitely wouldn't wear pink, purple, or orange."
Jason from Pittsfield, MA: "I wore a white tux and she wore a white dress. A guy should be able to wear whatever color (I'd personally rock any color) he wants but be ready to face the consequence that comes along with that!"
As you can see, while some guys aren't phased by their color attire, others may feel uncomfortable wearing a particular hue. That doesn't mean that you have to limit your dress options. Here's a list of colors that make as perfect of a pair as you and your date do:
You: Pink Him: Silver
You: Purple Him: Teal
You: Navy Him: Gold
You: Blue Him: Lime Green
You: Salmon Him: Light Grey
Remind your guy that he can have fun with his outfit too with different tie lengths/widths and patterned vests. Have him check out jeanyvesprom.com for ideas!
Are they any colors you wouldn't wear to prom? Give us the scoop below!
xoxo,
Gennifer
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Can one ever get enough of cute athletes? CG! thinks not! Washington native and 19-year-old speed skater JR Celski will be competing on behalf of Team USA tonight along with Trevor Marsicano. Get to know JR below:
CosmoGirl: Do you have a favorite designer or clothing line?
JR Celski: I love clothes! I’ll wear anything from Urban Outfitters or American Apparel.
CG: What words do you live by?
CG: What type of music do you listen to?
CG: What would you be if you weren't an athlete?
CG: What is something you'd want people to know about you?
JR competes TONIGHT at the 2010 Winter Olympics. Follow all of the American athletes over at TeamUSA.org. Good luck JR!
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No matter what sport you're a fan of, the Olympics are always full of excitement, patriotism, and… charming guys! Twenty-year-old cutie Trevor Marsicano will be representing the U.S. tonight in the speed skating competition. CG! caught up with the skating sensation and found out who his favorite bands are, what he does in his spare time, and how he risked death skating. Read on:
CosmoGirl: What do you do to unwind after a long day of skating?
Trevor Marsicano: My pastimes include golf, cycling, and video games for Xbox 360 like Halo.
CG: Who is your favorite band?
CG: Do you have a lucky charm?
CG: What was your favorite high school experience?
CG: What is something you'd want people to know about you?
Make sure you cheer Trevor on tonight! Want more? Check out NBC Olympics for photos, videos, and a full schedule. Go U.S.A.!
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You'd think once you arrive at college, boys would grow up and not reel you in and then push you away, right? I mean...college guys are mature and older...aren't they? Nope. Even in college, you'll meet that gorgeous senior who flirts with you after class, texts you before you go to sleep and acts totally interested in you but then the following week completely ignores you while he's chatting up some other girl at a party. As soon as you are about to say "enough is enough," he does something so irresistibly sweet, that you can't possibly let go. Behold, the infamous yo-yo dating scene.
I've met and dealt with them and you totally deserve better – as I'm sure you've said to yourself a million times already. There are ways though, to cut the cord of this yo-yo who has been stringing you along for way too long!
Don't over flirt! Boys who like you will be clear. Yes, we all play games but when a boy truly does like you – it's game over, and there are no more pawns to kill or castles to jump. If you feel like you're flirting more than he is, stop yourself and let him keep the witty banter flowing for once. It'll stop you from wasting your conversation on a guy who isn't as invested in this as you are.
Take control of your social life. I can admit to going to a party because I thought my crush would be there. Don't plan your social life around where he might be! You're only setting yourself up for disappointment when your fun is determined on his actions! Do what you want to do tonight and don't plan your social life around him.
Be true to yourself. My friend had to put her foot down to the off and on again hookups with a guy who was being hot and cold with her. You might tell yourself you're okay with a friends and benefits relationship, but if you truly like this guy, you're only getting half of what you want, which won't make you happy in the end. You deserve the whole nine yards, so be strong and hold out.
It's definitely hard when you fall for a guy like this, but remember a guy who hates labels, is a repeated hookup, or is just hot and cold isn't the person you want a relationship with.
Have you been in this type of relationship? What did you do to stop chasing?
Xoxo,
Divya Bahl
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Nervous that your date will bring up sex after prom? Follow this advice to stay safe and avoid uncomfortable situations with your evening arm candy:
Where are fun places to go after the prom to avoid being in a sex situation with my guy? What if he brings it up?
Staying away from bedrooms definitely helps, but frankly, you could go bowling with 100 friends and a guy could still send you the "I want sex tonight!" vibe. If he does, be as clear as possible with a big old "No." And in case he doesn't back off, be sure to have your cell phone with you at all times—and, as additional backup, enough cash for a cab home.
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I remember coming to college thinking I would be one of the few who was still a virgin. At 17, I was slightly insecure, not 100 percent comfortable with my body and unlike many of my friends, failed at finding a "true love" to lose it to. Nonetheless, I wasn't keen on getting rid of my V-card, and soon realized that a lot of my friends were in the same boat as me. Regardless, things could be different and for some of you there may be a lot of pressure to lose it – whether you're a high school junior or a college freshman. Therefore, I have a few bits of advice...
Don't give yourself a time table. This isn't a race! I had friends who lost it and wished they hadn't. Society today gives us the notion that if you haven't lost it by a certain age, there must be something wrong with you. This is untrue and completely ridiculous! You should be completely ready and have no doubts about it before you have sex. Don't let anyone pressure you and don't deem yourself undesirable just because you haven't been that sexually active yet.
It isn't unusual to be a virgin. This may seem obvious, but a lot of people often feel like they're the only one when a majority of their friends have already had sex. I know people who are waiting until marriage. I know others who are waiting for the right person and haven't found that person yet. Don't do it because you want to fit in, and never do it because a boy is pressuring you to, or you think it'll make him like you more. If he really cares about you, he'll respect your choices.
Once it's gone, it's gone. Remember that once you lose your virginity, you can't really get it back. The risks of sex are big and you should be knowledgeable about what you're doing and the precautions you should take as well as who you're doing it with. Be sure that your partner is someone you trust and that he won't be gone in the morning. You might feel physically ready, but if you're not emotionally ready you don't want to be heartbroken since sex is really special to most people.
What are your thoughts? Do you feel pressured to lose your virginity?
Xoxo,
Divya
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Just like some girls hate dresses, some guys hate tuxedos. If you sense your date might have this issue, check out the reader dilemma below to see how you should handle it.
My guy doesn't want to wear a classic tux - what else is there?
There are three options here:
He can rent a suit. Tux rental places rent full suits, including shirts (not just plain ones - stripes and colors too) ties (ditto), and shoes, says Kathleen Peskens of After Six. Some guys are more comfortable in a suit, and your pics will still look special.
He can wear a tux and ditch the tie. If he's tie-phobic, he can leave the top two shirt buttons open. He'll feel relaxed, and it's a hot look, says Peskens, since today's tuxes are cut slimmer and more body-hugging. And what guy doesn't like to show off a little?
He can deal with it. It's one night, after all. If he's never tried on a tuxedo, try to get him to, "just for fun." Once he sees how James-Bond-cool he looks, he might just change his mind. Seriously, it's possible!
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Meet our guest blogger Alessandra! Originally from Lima, Peru, she moved to New York less than 6 years ago and considers herself a New Yorker at heart. Some of her favorites are coffee-table books, white rice, chick lit, long cardigans, and anything pink. Her goals in life are to make a difference and read as many books as possible. She is an assistant beauty editor at a national magazine.
Finding the right thing to do with your Valentine can be complicated; especially if you are hanging out with a friend or the cutie you just started dating. Find a few foolproof options below.
If you are going out with just a friend...
suggest going to a funny, non-date movie. That means skipping Valentine's Day (too girly) and Dear John for a movie like Youth in Revolt or even renting a funny classic like Wedding Crashers or Mean Girls. You'll have a relaxing night, some giggles and zero pressure.
If Valentine's Day will be your first date...
go somewhere where you can talk, like a coffee house, a low-key restaurant, or an ice cream spot. If you go to a loud place or a movie, you won't get a chance to get to know each other and find a connection.
If you just started seeing your date...
doing something cheap, fun, and goofy, like mini-golf, bowling, or going to an arcade, will show your date you are not laying on the pressure and expecting to get serious.
If you are going out with your serious beau...
go traditional and plan a dinner at your favorite spot or treat your boy with tickets to see his favorite team or band. You can celebrate on the day of the event and spend February 14th relaxing.What would your perfect Valentine's Day date be?
Xoxo,
Ale
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There have been many years I have had a platonic Valentine's Day date, if even that. I've spent countless Valentine's Days at home watching chick flicks, munching on heart shaped chocolates I've bought for myself. While I'm sure many girls would pity me for not having a date or a romantic dinner on the 14th, I never saw it that way. And even now, when I do have a Valentine (yes, after all these years) I don't understand the hype!
There is this unusual hysteria around Valentine's Day that I've seen over and over again that makes people without significant others feel lonely – but who says you need a significant other to celebrate love? And if you do, why would you only celebrate it with that one person?
If you're single, don't cry and deem yourself to being lonely and miserable. Go out with your girlfriends and celebrate your friendship! Have a fun dinner, make heart-shaped cupcakes and have a chick flick marathon! Or better yet, see the movie Valentine's Day (I personally am counting the days down for it).
Valentine's Day isn't just about romance; it's about letting everyone you care about know that you love them, so tell your family how much you care about them too. There's nothing wrong with giving your mom a Valentine's Day card!
For those of you who are dating someone, use the day as an excuse to spend quality time together – especially since with school, work, and midterms coming up, you may already be really busy.
Whoever you are spending the 14th with, just remember that it's nothing to get worked up about! It's a day you can use to remind everyone, boyfriend, friend, dad, mom, sister, or brother that you love and adore them!
How are you spending February 14th?
Xoxo,
Divya
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Ah, kissing. Arguably the best perk of Valentine's Day. Well, maybe the Godiva chocolates are the real perk, but regardless, kissing is a rite of passage when it comes to the day of love. Smooching is a great way to show your boyfriend or crush how you feel, but there is nothing worse than kissing someone, or being that someone with not so loveable breath. Read below to get all you need to know on oral hygiene, so you can worry less about your breath and more about how cute he looks in that shirt you picked out for him.
Sixty-eight percent of men and women say that having white teeth makes them feel approachable. Rinsing your mouth twice a day for one minute with Listerine's Whitening Restoring Rinse will whiten your teeth, restore enamel, and freshen your breath. Gleaming teeth and fresh breath? Your crush won't be forgetting your smooch anytime soon!
Rinsing in the morning and evening with a mouthwash like Listerine's Total Care in Cinnamint is also a big help. This has the power to prevent cavities (probably from those Godiva chocolates), strengthen teeth, kill bad breath germs and fight plaque above the gum line.
Make sure to pick ones of these up before the 14th to keep yourself looking and feeling ultra-kissable. Be sure to check out more kissing tips here!
What kissing advice do you follow?
xoxo,
Gennifer
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In college, you'll hear about hook-up buddies or friends with benefits. No, the benefits are not free food at the restaurant he works at, it's a bit different and in college, these friends aren't too hard to obtain.
Friends with benefits is typically someone you are friends with and have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. There is no romantic, monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment.
To some of you this may appear great; to others maybe it's a nightmare. One thing's for sure, this can be emotionally excruciating if you don't know what you're signing up for.
Some people don't like commitment, and this is an easy and convenient way to release sexual tension with someone they trust. For others, it's difficult to keep their emotions in check when their relationship becomes physical. Then there is also the risk of leading someone on in case they break the rules and start to have feelings for you.
Many think friends with benefits never works, while others don't think it is a big deal. If you do decide to have a friend with benefits, make sure you are both on the same page and have a mutual understanding of what the relationship entails. If you don't you could be setting yourself up for heartache, losing a good friend, or putting yourself in a situation you don't want to be in.
Have you ever had a friend with benefits? How did it turn out for you?
Xoxo,
Divya
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The best accessory you will have prom night won't be your cute new clutch or killer heels. It will be the arm candy wrapped around you - yes, your date!
You may be completely fixated on what you will be wearing for prom but have you stopped to think about what he is going to wear? Check out these tips below so that you are both looking your best on prom night.
Talk about your dress before prom. This isn't your wedding day, you don't want him to be surprised! Sure, you can keep some of the details a secret but it's important to let him know what color you plan on wearing so that he can pick out the appropriate vest color, flowers, etc.
Decide how much you want to match when hunting for a tux. Some prom couples like to match and others think it's better to offset one another with complimenting colors. See how he is feeling and make a decision together.
Let him make some decisions without you. You may think you have the better taste but it's his prom too, which means he needs a part of his outfit to express his own style. Whether it's his tie or cuff links, if it doesn't clash with your dress or make a point to make you feel uncomfortable, grin and bear it. Besides, we bet him wearing a paisley bow tie will get both of you lots of compliments for creativity come prom night!
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It's never too early to start thinking about a prom date, and it's never too early to practice your flirting skills to win him over! Check out the flirting dos these guys confess won them over. Try one of these and snag yourself a prom date!
1. PUT OUT THE VIBE
Just like you, guys get nervous about talking to a girl they like — especially if they think she’s unavailable or, worse, uninterested. So if you’re into a guy, give him a sign (and let him know you won’t laugh in his face) by making eye contact and flashing him a "go ahead, make your move" smile!
"Last year, I asked a girl out after I noticed the way she was looking at me across a room. It started off with our eyes meeting — she’d smile and not turn her head away. I walked over to talk to her, we hit it off, and I invited her out later that night." —Bobby, 18, Woodbridge, NJ
2. CHALLENGE HIM
You know how fired up you get when you lose a round of Guitar Hero? Well, guys’ "I will not be defeated!" spirit can be even stronger. So get your crush’s competitive juices flowing by taking him on in a little one-on-one. Whether you win or lose, you’ll still be a champ in his eyes!
"I got a crush on a girl I was friends with after we played soccer together. She’s supersweet, so seeing her try to kick my butt on the field got me to look at her in a completely different way. After that, I couldn’t resist asking her out." —Mark, 22, New York, NY
3. BE SORT OF THERE FOR HIM
Guys love the thrill of chasing what they think they can’t have. So let him wonder what you’re up to sometimes. Treat the amount of time you give him like cell phone minutes: Use sparingly at first and he’ll want more, more, more!
"My first year at New York University, I texted this girl to see if she wanted to hang out. She didn’t write back until the next day! Having to chase her down made me want to pursue her more. And when we finally did end up going out, I felt like I’d accomplished something big." —Robin, 18, Fairfax, VA
4. DUCK, DUCK, GOOSE HIM!
In elementary school, a guy with a crush was a pigtail’s worst nightmare. Now that you understand what his motives were then, it’s time for payback. Reach out to him with a childish punch or noogie and his inner 6-year-old will be forced to respond!
"I asked one girl out because she’d always do playful, innocent things. Like, when I’d pass her in the hallway she’d give me a high five or a little shove. I liked that because it showed me that she noticed me and that she’d be easy to hang out with. I could never pass up a girl like that!" —Daniel, 20, St. Cloud, MN
5 GREAT PLACES TO MEET GUYS
CONCERTS: He’s in a feel-good groove. And since you like the same music, he’s likely to groove with you!
GAS STATIONS: Filling up is boring. Pass time by trying move #1 (eye contact!) on the guy two pumps over!
VOLUNTEERING: With all the great karma that comes from doing good, you’re sure to make a connection.
AMUSEMENT PARKS: Go in a group with an odd number — then ask a hot guy to sit with you on the Python!
WAITING IN LINE: You’re both at the mercy of the slow barista at Starbucks. Why not talk about it?
What's your best flirting tip?
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What to know what he is really thinking about prom? We don't blame you! We've hunted down some hotties to tell us what they really think about prom night - you may be surprised!
"I don't think that guys always have just one thing in mind when it comes to prom night. When I think of prom, I think of a romantic night with a girl I really like. But I don’t associate prom with sex at all. It’s more about just enjoying being around each other." —Matt, 17, Massapequa, NY
"Whoever I bring as my date should feel that we ought to hang out together. She shouldn’t think it's okay to ditch me for some guy she kind of has a crush on. That happened to me last year. My date hooked up with someone else during the dance and it made everything awkward." —Tim, 17, Vancouver, WA
"Since prom is really your last high school experience, I feel like it's a night when you should take risks with relationships. That way you don't have to spend the rest of your life wondering, What if? So it would be cool to go with a girl who has been a good friend, and if everything seemed right, I would definitely make a move." —Ian, 17, Locust Valley, NY
"I hope that there’s a really awesome party after prom. I want it to be a night I can look back at and remember how great high school was and how much fun I had with all of my friends." —Colin, 18, Chicago, IL
"My biggest wish for prom is that I go with someone I can really connect with. When I arrive at her house to pick her up, I'd love to see her walk down the stairs in a gorgeous dress. It'd be just like stepping into a movie!" —Dan, 17, Littleton, CO
"I hope that my parents don't embarrass me too badly before my date and I head to the dance. They can get a little out of hand with the picture-taking!" —Tyler, 16, Ballwin, MO
"My prom wish is that my date is happy the whole night and that she has a good time instead of worrying about things like if she looks okay or if I dance with one of my girl friends. I want to be able to hang out with everybody, so she doesn't need to freak out if I dance with someone else for a song or two — I'll be back." —Ryan, 16, High Ridge, MO
"I hope that when my date and I get to prom, no one is dancing yet and we can be the first couple on the floor. I'd kind of like it if we got to dance in front of everyone." —Josh, 18, Huntington, IN
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