Oh No She Didn't!

You all know the scenario: you like a guy, you tell your friends you like the guy, and then through some strange sequence of events, the guy (YOUR GUY!!) ends up with someone else. To make matters worse, that someone else is one of your friends! So, what are you supposed to do when it happens to you?

Your first reaction is probably to feel angry and betrayed, which is natural and completely understandable. It hurts to think your feelings were completely ignored. One of the most important foundations of any friendship is trust, and when someone steals your man, your trust in them is the first thing to go!

It’s important to try and assess the situation with a clear head and an outside source. Talk to someone who isn’t involved in the love triangle—your mom or dad, maybe a sibling. Having an objective opinion can help you figure out what to do. It’s all about perspective; if it turns out that the pair really do make a great couple and couldn’t deny an obvious attraction and connection, then sometimes you just have to be the bigger person and learn to forgive. But if this is something that happens more than once with the same friend, you need to talk to her to figure out what the issue really is—jealousy, insecurity, etc? You also need to decide if her friendship is worth the heartache. Why would you want to be friends with someone who regularly disregards your feelings?

We all make mistakes, so the important thing to focus on here is how and why it happened—not to mention, will it happen again? I have a friend who is now engaged to the guy she “stole” from one of her best friends. And you know what? The odd woman out is actually happy for them because she sees how perfect they actually are for each other. Besides, she knows her Prince Charming will eventually come along and until he does, she is sure there will be lots of cuties at the wedding to distract her!

What do you guys think is the best way to handle these situations? Is having a friend move in on your man a reason to kick her to the curb or should you learn to forgive and forget?

Julia
CosmoGirl Beauty Intern