By Kristen O'Gorman
Photo by: Nuno Silva
What to do if: Your date is pressuring you
Clear the air before the big night; you don’t want the anxiety of what to say hanging over you while you’re trying to enjoy your prom night. If he’s persistent about sex, sit down with him well in advance of the prom and make it very clear to him that you won’t be doing the deed on prom night. Say something like, "I know you're hoping to have sex on prom night, but I'm not comfortable with it. Let's just hang out with our friends afterward. Cool?" If he's a good guy (and he should be — you did choose him as a date, after all!), he won't want to go farther than you're comfortable with and will respect your wishes. And if he makes a big deal out of it, maybe you should reconsider your prom date.
What to do if: Your date is telling everyone except you that he wants to have sex
He may be telling you that he's cool with taking things slow, but he's telling all of his friends that he plans to seal the deal on prom night. Maybe he hopes that you're going to change your mind or maybe he has some elaborate plan to win you over. Whatever the case, you need to confront him and clear the air before the big night. Be very specific and tell him who you heard the gossip from — that way, he can't deny it or say that you heard it wrong. Make sure that he hears you loud and clear that you don't want to go all the way.
What to do if: Your friends are all doing it
Sure, it's easy to say that it doesn't matter what your friends are doing. But when you're the only virgin in the group and they're all booking private hotel rooms with their dates for after prom, you may feel a little left out. Your friends might be telling you that sex isn't that big of a deal and that you should "get it over with" before college. But don't rush into something just because your friends are doing it. Stick together with like-minded friends, so that when your other friends run off to their rooms with their dates, you still have people to hang out with.
What to do if: You are ready
Only you can decide whether or not you're ready. If you decide that you are, make sure that you use protection. Even if you're already on the birth control pill, remember that it doesn't prevent STDs. Use a condom — better safe than sorry! Pack a few in your overnight bag so that you're protected even if your date "forgets" to get condoms. And most important, make sure that you're doing it for the right reasons — your first time should be special, not something that you regret!
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