How To: Deal With His Ex-Girlfriend

Five tips for getting over his former flame. He has (hopefully), so why don't you?

Relationship baggage — if you don’t have to deal with it now, you will soon. Sorry, it’s true. Ex-girlfriends are quite often the most threatening person in a relationship. Whether she’s still hanging around or completely out of the picture, it’s hard to not compare yourself to her or wonder if he feels the same way about you. Read on and learn to let it go.

Don't Overreact
The jealousy you're experiencing is probably making you a little crazy. Remember, it's not an attractive quality — it's even a bit of a turn-off and may make your guy think twice about being with you. The truth is, you're most likely blowing the whole thing out of proportion in your head, so try to curb the jealous reactions and realize your guy only has eyes for you.

Don't Stress
People have a habit of spending their time stressing over what could happen, rather than what actually is happening. So don't forget to enjoy the moment. Instead of worrying about her, why don't you just try to enjoy him? Your guy is the one you should be daydreaming about.

Be Honest
It may sound scary to share your true feelings — but if you tell your guy you're feeling a bit threatened by his last girl, he is bound to reassure you that you're the one for him. His pep talk may be just what you need to realize that you have nothing to worry about.

Be Nice
She's still in the picture? Then kill her with kindness. If you and your guy run into her at a party, smile. Ask her how she is and what she's been up to. Be sweet and genuine (or at least appear to be). It will mean less drama and your guy will be impressed with how calm and mature you are.

Be Realistic
You may be overcome with jealousy about his ex, but you aren't seeing what is really going on. Guys are pretty straightforward — he is with you because he wants to be. If he still wanted her, he would be with her, or at least be trying to get her back. She may seem perfect in your eyes, but she isn't perfect for him.

Sidebar: The Psycho Ex
So maybe this ex of his is a little bit nuts. Borderline stalker? She's calling him over and over at all hours. Maybe she's even got your number and is harassing you. The solution: Ignore her. She's trying to get a reaction out of you, and if you don't give her one, she's bound to stop. So just suck it up and keep quiet. If this doesn't work, contact your local authorities.